We Looked in a Gift Horse’s Mouth

“‘If one of your fellow Israelites becomes poor and sells some of their property, their nearest relative is to come and redeem what they have sold.  If, however, there is no one to redeem it for them but later on they prosper and acquire sufficient means to redeem it themselves, they are to determine the value for the years since they sold it and refund the balance to the one to whom they sold it; they can then go back to their own property.  But if they do not acquire the means to repay, what was sold will remain in the possession of the buyer until the Year of Jubilee.  It will be returned in the Jubilee, and they can then go back to their property.
“‘Anyone who sells a house in a walled city retains the right of redemption a full year after its sale.  During that time the seller may redeem it.  If it is not redeemed before a full year has passed, the house in the walled city shall belong permanently to the buyer and the buyer’s descendants.  It is not to be returned in the Jubilee.  But houses in villages without walls around them are to be considered as belonging to the open country.  They can be redeemed, and they are to be returned in the Jubilee.

  • Leviticus 25:25-31

This is what the Lord my God says: “Shepherd the flock marked for slaughter.  Their buyers slaughter them and go unpunished.  Those who sell them say, ‘Praise the Lord, I am rich!’  Their own shepherds do not spare them.  For I will no longer have pity on the people of the land,” declares the Lord.  “I will give everyone into the hands of their neighbors and their king.  They will devastate the land, and I will not rescue anyone from their hands.”

  • Zechariah 11:4-6

Do you know the expression “Do not look a gift horse in the mouth”?  The idea is that a thoroughbred has a tattooed number inside its mouth.  Is the number a fake or does it even have a number?

Sorry, we looked.

My wife wants to have a house of her own.  She is tired of things breaking and then not wanting to tell the landlady in fear that the landlady will kick us out of the house since we are paying less than the full rent after I “retired.”  I keep explaining that the landlady agreed to the lesser amount, and she would lose a lot more money while fixing up an unrented house before the next renters moved in.  But my wife has been jittery lately anyway.

That is when someone offered us a gift house instead of a gift horse.  If we lived under Levitical law, some of what is mentioned above might apply, sort of, maybe.

My wife has a brother who is about to go into a nursing home.  There are a variety of reasons for this move, but the only asset that he has to offer is the home that he shared with his mother, and he inherited upon her passing.  Everyone in the family would love to see it stay in the family, but now it must stay in the family.  Once he passes away, the house must be sold so that MEDICAID can recoup some of their money that they have paid for him staying at the nursing home.

Thus, we were asked to be the renters.  We would only have to pay the taxes, insurance, and utilities.

On the financial side, it would save us a lot of money each month.  If one of us passed away, the other could probably still make ends meet.  And the grandchildren might visit more, with us not far from the beach.  And she would have sisters visiting all the time.

But the laundry list of negatives is a mile long.  My wife would still not have a house of her own.  She wants to be near the grandchildren, not four hours closer, making it a full day’s drive instead of a day and a half.  And we would move from a hilltop to a low spot in a flood plain, at least the house has flooded a couple of times at least.  And the area seems to have a target painted over it saying, “Hurricanes welcome here.”  And the sisters visiting all the time means we would have to keep up the house cleaning, which gets harder each year.

And the worst of it is that if her brother passes away before we do, we will be in our 70s and homeless.

Sorry, we turned down the offer.  Let me clarify that.  My wife turned down the offer.

I do not think the local laws call for any Jubilee Year forgiveness programs.  No, it is more the Zechariah concept of the rich getting what they can get, but it does not matter.  The end is inevitable anyway.  We will all be letting someone else cart our stuff to the dumpster after we are gone.

While we hold out hope that we can be with our grandchildren some day soon, our health and our finances are in God’s hands.

God has provided our needs, but we might need a little more in many ways if we make any move at all.

Soli Deo Gloria.  Only to God be the Glory.

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  1. I’ll keep you in my prayers and thoughts.

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  2. Tennessee bound Mark—
    However, I know your wife wants that…but the question is do you?
    As a fellow who is former military and very engineering oriented, I know you look at the practical side of things… and that side of the list woefully overrides the mere heart list of your wife by a mile…so if we are praying for Tennessee, you need to be all in or we need to change our prayerful wording.
    And I can say this from a place of understanding as Gregory has really struggled with this move of ours—he’s now telling me (in probably not the kindest of ways) that he was not on board with this but rode with it as I kept proclaiming that God opening all the right doors…
    And He did…but I too wonder was it right if he isn’t all that content.
    But yet, God sees the big picture and the lasting picture—so I just keep going with that.
    So are you in Mark?
    Or do we pray differently?

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    • Wow, you sure like putting me on the spot. If I move to TN, I would want a house with a generator for any power outages – cooling and CPAP, and my dream home would include a walk-in freezer, which would be my room, but that is asking too much. I just see it as inevitable in that we cannot stay where we are on only one SSA check each month and if we move, why not move close to the grandchildren. So, yes, I am in for the TN move, but there are complications – part being a brewing feud in our son’s family. My wife and I thought that with their pastor convincing them that the kids needed to go to public school ended the subject, but she is fighting the decision. I do not wish to become a referee. I think we all need some time to make a good decision with the inevitable end if one of us passes.

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      • I agree and totally get the struggles we find ourselves in between our children, their spouses and their children— ( we are there) and as parents and grandparents we feel a deep obligation – so it is conflicting— but I needed to know you’re in so we can freely pray for the opening of doors!!
        And a walk-in freezer would be a win win

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  3. I’m praying for the Lord’s guidance and provision for you and your wife.

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